Sillyness And Wasting Precious Time

Sillyness And Wasting Precious Time

Posted on November 17, 2014 by Ines


Today’s subject is sillyness.  Yes, sillyness. We spend days tossing back and forth sillyness, you know what I’m talking about. We do it in our everyday lives. Your partner comes from work and wants to know why you changed the lock  to the front door. Instead of answering why directly, you say “What is it to you that I changed the lock, if you didn’t lose your keys all the time, I wouldn’t have to do that”. Instead of just answering “I changed it because you lost your key”.
This is how we stumble through life, focused on silly details and not understanding that each sillyness only holds us back from growing. We talk about Ego, yet we insist on being right. We talk about Love yet we insist on pointing fingers at others. If we love, we love all there is about the person. If we don’t need ego, we don’t need to outline in detail all the mistakes someone else has made.
We’re all wannabies. Wanting to be something, but don’t know how to be it. We focus on sillyness because we can avoid looking in the mirror to see ourselves.
While I was sweeping the floor around my partner’s feet, I commented “Boy, you sure know how to get the floor dirty fast”. He answers: “That wasn’t me, that was the cat”. My partner has never admitted to making mistakes. He will blame me for wasting electricity, while he uses high powered tools in his workshop. It’s easier that way, throw the blame on someone else, and this is a person that loves me. I often tell my partner that it’s ok to make mistakes, that I love him regardless, but 65 years of programming is so deeply embedded, I am asking far too much from him. I get it, I allow him to think it’s not his fault, it matters not to me, I know the truth and it’s not important that I am right about it.
We fail to see our own imperfections because we are too busy looking for them in others. It’s a human trait, we are taught it’s either good or bad, right or wrong, dark or light, and since we can’t accept the imperfection, we seek it out in others. What’s wrong with being imperfect? Are not all imperfect? Did the aliens not create us into imperfection? Of course, they didn’t want us to find ourselves, they didn’t want us to figure out who we were.
But we as brothers and sisters constantly seek out each other for their imperfections. We already know we are imperfect, what’s the point of bringing it out? This finger pointing is merely slowing our own growth. It’s easy to be a wise guy in this virtual world, but let me ask you a question: Are our online friendships as valuable as our real world friendships? Do you feel the same heartfelt love for your virtual friends as you do for the friends you can look into their eyes, give them a hug?
What is the meaning of an online friendship? For me it means that I met someone who had similar ideologies and interests. Someone I communicate on a regular basis, and someone I can confide in and share my personal life/experience with. This is what a virtual friend means to me. From here I will refer to a virtual friend as VF. I don’t feel any different between a real life friend or a VF. I’m still open, sharing, caring and am interested in the life of my VF. So, when a VF disappoints me, it really hurts.
It seems that not everyone had the same experience with VF, some just discard them when they no longer serve the purpose, or pretend to be someone they are not, or play along for a while because they have nothing better to do, but when it comes down to resolving a serious issue with the friend, it just seems easier to run and not deal with it. That’s been my experience lately.
Some may say that I could be a poor judge of character, well, very few can be a good judge of character assessing a virtual person. It’s so easy to put on a mask and just be anyone you want to be. The monitor is the separation between us, we can create the character we want to create and play the game until it gets boring or until we get found out.
It matters not what you are or why you chose to start a friendship, it only matters that we be honest with each other, but what is honesty in this virtual world? Can we trust anything? It works the other way too. We have good intentions, we make mistakes, but because we never know 100% about the person we are judging, we make assumptions about them. I’m guilty of it, I have made a lot of assumptions about people based on their comments or emails. It’s wrong, this is how we communicate online, we take what we see and make judgements.
Who are we? Why do we spend so much time online? Do we not have lives? Each to his own. I’m here because I don’t have a stimulative surrounding, meaning, I don’t have like-minded friends that I can share on the subjects I write about and the interests I enjoy.  I love sharing with others, after 30 years of reading and learning, why not share that? Knowledge is power, but it means nothing if we don’t use it. Wisdom is knowing what to do with that knowledge. It’s my mantra, why waste the knowledge if it can contribute to someone’s growth?
So we all have different reasons for being in this virtual world, though, it’s gone past where we need reasons because most of our lives now are connected to the virtual world from reading, shopping, communicating, paying bills etc. And while we are here, we create friendships, we fall in love, we join groups, we form organizations, we create our own blogs where we can express ourselves or share.
Technology, medicine, science, all these higher learning fields have progressed greatly in the past 50 years. We have not progressed in the past 10,000 years. We are still fighting wars, still fighting over who is the right god, who is the right color, who is the right education, we’re still creating separation because we don’t realize yet that we are ALL ONE. If you insult me, you insult yourself. If I hurt you, I only hurt myself. This is a concept we all talk about, we write about but we sure don’t practice do we?
We would rather spend time finding fault in each other, then spend that time on our personal growth, on helping this planet rid of mobsters and monsters, on helping those that are in wars fight for Peace. What has any of the above have to do with Peace?
We are approaching the holiday season. Are you out shopping and buying gifts? Have you not learned that each gift you purchase is feeding the war machine? Are you thinking about all those Palestinians that can’t build their homes because Israel won’t open the borders and allow building supplies? Are you doing anything about it to change that? Isn’t it more important that we all enjoy a full belly, a roof over our heads, education for our children? Why are we so focused on hurting each other?
You see, we can talk about it, we can write about, but we’re all hypocrites because we will find an excuse why we are shopping again this year. What can be the excuse other than not caring enough for all those that are dying from DU weapons of mass destruction? Do they not deserve peace and harmony?  I throw out more food than someone eats in a year. My dog and cat eat better than most underprivileged humans. I’m ashamed of that. My government taxes me on donations, it taxes me if I give away something, even food. Our food stores can’t give out food this year because they have to pay taxes on it.
Isn’t this issue more important than pointing fingers at each other? Isn’t asking 1/2 M euros a bit too much, when we don’t even provide a project plan or photos of this project yet we get upset when people are questioning us?
What kind of people are we? I thought we were here to help each other, to build a better world, to rid the monsters, to remove the shackles from our ankles. I thought we were all here to support each other, instead of look for flaws, appreciate each others journey and lessons. Some of us are old souls, some of us new souls, some of us are experiencing a human body for the first time. When you pointed your finger at someone did you stop and think about that? Not everyone is at your level, not everyone is doing the same work. Some of us are just shining the light, that’s all we have to do, just shine the light, show the love.
Some of us have to break down the quarantine, fight the reptilians, raise the planetary vibration, we all have different jobs to do. So why are we picking on the details of our imperfections?
Why the sillyness? Are we not beyond that, are we not on the verge of becoming a new generation of humans. Humans that will telepathically communicate, create through thought, travel anywhere anytime any timeline, this is what we are about to become. So, why are we holding each other back?
Let’s start thinking about this journey, let’s start remembering how divine we are, how great we are, how perfect we are just the way we are. If I hurt you, let me know, if I make a mistake, it’s mine to make. If I call you out on a mistake, tell me it’s none of my business, but if I’m holding out my hand in peace, grab it, and then use the other hand to hold someone else, that is what we are here for.
As of today, I am going to take what I have just written and ‘try’ to be that. I say try because I am imperfect, we are being attacked from all sides because they don’t want us to wake up, but I will try to be the best I can be, and that best is for me, not YOU. My best may not be your best, but we are souls on different journeys, therefore, let’s respect each other for that, and instead of focusing on the sillyness, lets focus on what matters and what we can do to make this planet a better place to live on.
I love you all.


Thanks to Ines at: http://inesradman.wordpress.com