Saint-Germain: Living with Integrity
By Alexandra and Dan
This channeling is part of Soul purpose reading with Saint-Germain.
"Dear Saint-Germain, my family is treating my husband with a total lack of respect. It hurts me to witness this. I've tried to forgive them for their interference in our lives, but I find that I cannot. Their continued negativity is preventing me from forgiving them and healing this wound. Can you help me, please?"
Beloved friend, I AM Saint-Germain. Your Soul’s purpose in this lifetime is to live in accord with your highest truth and integrity. Since living this way is so very important to you, you are naturally reacting very strongly to your family’s inappropriate behavior. They have fallen out of integrity with their higher principles, and their actions have made this obvious to you.
You should congratulate yourself for having recognized this, but not give it any more attention. There is little that you can do now without aggravating the situation and entrenching them more deeply in their mistaken convictions.
Instead, you should focus on yourself. In particular, you should be careful not to develop equally strong, self-convincing beliefs about the way things are. Your family has made this mistake already. And while they spend much emotional energy defending their positions, their hearts are suffering for it.
Trusting Your Inner Wisdom.
Why not stay aligned with the Higher Truths that are written on your heart, rather than hiding behind your strong beliefs about what has been done to you? Believing that these transgressions can hurt you, will only make them seem real in your mind. If you listen to your heart, instead, you will remember that you are all Children of God.
To do this effectively, you will need to trust your inner wisdom. What is inner wisdom? Your inner or intuitive wisdom is something that is revealed to you in your feelings and accessed through your heart. It cannot be summoned from the beliefs you have about what has happened to you, nor conjured up from the resentment you may feel because your convictions and principles have been violated.
The more you focus upon this, the more difficulty you will have in healing the betrayal of trust that has taken place between you and your family, and the greater challenges you will face in opening your heart again.
You’ll be convinced that you are right and they are wrong, and you’ll be determined to walk this line with your family to the bitter end. But the intensity of your convictions will also make it difficult for you to heal this situation with compassion and forgiveness, and thereby free yourself to move on.
Blessing, Releasing, and Forgiving.
You are encouraged not to react angrily against your family members based upon this betrayal of your beliefs and principles. These Are important, it is true. But you may be hiding behind them in an intellectual way in order to protect yourself from the hurt and betrayal that you feel. The anger and bitterness that you feel toward your family are secondary emotions that only mask the deeper feelings of rejection and loss that you are experiencing. This is what needs your healing and forgiveness now.
What might be more productive is to allow yourself to feel and grieve deeply about this – and then to let these difficult family members go with your inner blessing. To bless your family members means to release them to the guidance and direction of their Higher Selves in a way that allows you to move on and live your life with the grace and dignity you desire.
Then if they gain insight into the situation and want to re-establish contact with you, you could try this again, but only if it feels right to you. First, you might want to “test the waters”. This means that you should go back into a relationship with them gradually; discerning the depth of their transformation with caution and without closing your heart to protect your feelings, as you have done in the past.
As long as you hold on to your anger and resentment, you will be unable to process your deeper feelings of hurt, and then offer them the forgiveness, blessing, and release that will heal you. It is through allowing your deeper feelings to reach a point of forgiveness that you will heal yourself, and also leave the door open for a possible reconciliation with your family later, provided that they make significant changes in their attitude and conduct.
For the time being, you must be firm and steadfast in your choice to let these difficult family members go. But please remember to bless them, and then release them to the love and guidance of their Souls and Higher Selves. Doing this will help you disentangle yourself from this situation, and allow you to heal yourself from the ordeal.
What you will discover is that through healing yourself of this emotional wounding and blessing and releasing your family members, you will create the greatest possibility for them to shift, too. You will create a healing path that they can walk on – if they choose – but without the need for you to confront them angrily again.
If they truly belong with you, then they will find their way back on their own… But if not, then it is better to release them with your love and blessings, and heal your own heart.
Living with Integrity.
You are not here to fight their anger with your anger, nor to fight their controlling behavior by controlling them in return.
Instead, you’re here to offer kindness, understanding, and awareness whenever possible – first, to yourself and then to your family members, if they are receptive. In doing this, you will raise yourself to another place of consciousness and silently invite everyone else to do the same.
You will do this with a quiet persistence that is a testimony to your integrity. And then you will step out of conflict once and for all.
This is the message that we have for you today, dear friend. Thank you for allowing us to share it with you. I AM Saint-Germain.
Would you like to know more about your Soul's plan and purpose for your life? Then please consider having a Soul purpose reading with Saint-Germain.
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